Generosity *

Saturday, September 1, 2007

To give and not to count the cost...
Except that of knowing that I do your will.
- St. Ignatius Loyola, Prayer for Generosity

A thought-provoking question from Seth Godin:

"If you didn't want anything in return, nothing at all, what's the most generous thing you could do for your best customer, your best friend, your most important prospect?"

For the best customer, I would likely give her or him a discount. Or probably an extra serving.

For a best friend, just to spend time with him or her, I would perhaps walk with him or her until he or she reaches his or her destination even if I am supposedly going the other way.

And for an important prospect, I would probably give her flowers and chocolates. But then I still could think of a more generous or perhaps romantic act like conspiring with high school friends to serenade her some time. Then again I could think of some more and the answers could go endless.

Though some things remain unanswered. Given that I am simply human, why would I not want anything in return? Because consciously or unconsciously, I want something in return either in the short run or in the long run.

Supposing that I do not want anything in return so I say that I give what is needed. If I specify that I give what is needed, then I am implying in a certain degree that I do not give just anything if it is only wanted. If it is needed, then I provide. If it is only wanted, then I do otherwise. The need-vs.-want scenario gives the impression then that I unconsciously want something in return. A condition is set - that I give only if it is needed. So that the answer "giving what is needed" is a kind that wants something in return.

Now, I usually do not want anything in return if I give to the person who has already given me something. Since the question speaks about giving to a best customer, a friend and a most important prospect, then there has been an established premise already that the concerned people have given me something. That is why I call them best and important. That is why I call someone a friend. I am being generous to the said people because of a prepaid generosity. But supposing that they did otherwise, I guess everything changes.

The real question then is, what could be the most generous thing one could do to complete strangers without expecting or wanting anything in return?

In contrast with an Online Tutoring service, I would probably give free tutoring to street kids.

But what if I give free tutoring just to feel good about myself? With it, I am already wanting or expecting something in return. So I guess motivation plays an important as well when giving.

* A post dedicated to a friend who each time says, "Always count your blessings."

19 comments:

THE ANiTOKiD said...

* A post dedicated to a friend who each time says, "Always count your blessings." - To be honest with you, my brother - I don't know what to say.

We had some good times, didn't we? They cannot take that away from us. And we will continue to have good times. Wherever we are in the world, the friendship of the Band Of the Master Bloggers will always be.

It goes without saying - I love the Penniless Fat Guy. I love The Blogmeister. I love Force Analytics. And I love you, my brother. And I WILL meet your Papang and Mamang! THAT IS A PROMISE! And I kid you not!

We make a living by what we get. But we make a life by what we give.
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Jehzeel Laurente said...

yeah.. we should always count our blessings :D

kuya!.. tinag pala kita sa meme ko! check it out! hehehe

http://www.jehzlau-concepts.com ^_^

Novice Blogger said...

Anitokid: For all that has been, we are thankful. For all that will be, we wholeheartedly say yes.

Jehzeel: I've done this meme already here. I've updated it though stating that you tagged me.

Cheers to both of you!

TruBlue said...

Come to think of it, if everyone in our dear filipins act and think like all of you bloggers and commenters like me, we would be the envy of the whole world, and they will be saying "what a country!!!"
Generosity is my cup of tea...when I'm in Baguio, I made it a habit of rounding up six to 10 downtrodden teenagers (less than 14 years old) from the streets and take them to the "Solibao Resto" at Burnham Park for a nice big hearty lunch. All my life, I'd rather give than receive. That's just the kind of person I am, and "I kid you not as the anito Kid would say". Cheers and goodhealth.........

THE ANiTOKiD said...

Sad ako bro. I tried to look strong that day for all of us. Yet, I have to be true to myself and to all of you - sad talaga ako....

Novice Blogger said...

Trublue: Right you are. And it's moving to know what you are doing to the less fortunate. I would do that some time as well. Thanks for sharing.

Anitokid: Don't be sad bro. I believe that everytime a window closes, another window opens. Isipin mo na lang si Dax, ang saya saya niya! Hehe.

I AM SAM said...

It's painful to see you guys go. I have never been in organization with the quality of people such as this. I could have been part of the herd that flocked. For some other reasons that God only knows, I was spared. Think of the bright side my friend. I know that you have performed well than others. But pleasing all people around you is too good to be true. Another opportunity is waiting for you. With your capacity and attitude, everything is possible. Do you remember when you said you always want to take the extra mile? I know you have taken steps towards that goal. This time, you have to make huge strides. I will definitely miss you pal. And I hope to see you soon. This is just the beginning of something better.

Louiss said...

I'm a new visitor here seems like many Filipino's writing some tagalog word.

For me i do give a special discount to my closest friend, family.
For stranger, I only will give my best service for them

Novice Blogger said...

Sam: I will miss you more. Hehe. It's really great to meet and know someone like you. I am grateful that once in this life, we crossed paths. I've never met anyone with a kind of life as dramatic as yours - with how you went everywhere just to find your mom, sister, your family... Thanks for sharing yourself because somehow I've been touched by the goodness of your heart. It is my hope that someday we will meet again my friend.

Louiss: Indeed. And good to see you here. Cheers! :)

Richard said...

Shet! Lalo ako nalungkot nang binasa ko to! ang hirap na dito! hnd ko maexplain nararamdaman ko ngyn!parng mas gugustuhin ko pang napasama nlng sa ncut...tpos ngyn wla na tlga nkapalibot samin ni sam...sobrang sad... Kahit lage mo ko tinatarantado novice blogger nakakamiss talaga...

Politics sucks!

lovelyn said...

Wait! Who is leaving who and where to? Sorry. Ignore my being nosy and lets go to generosity.

That's why I'll always remain poor, I give discounts to everyone. I may be the looser but if its what I want to do and I'm happy with what I'm doing, I believe I had gained more.

Novice B, I hope you don't mind me linking your site on my latest entry.

Ciao!

THE ANiTOKiD said...

Blogvertise pala ha! I got a good laugh when you told me bro! A dedicated post and an ad at the same time! It's like hitting two birds with one stone!

Hey Sam! You're coolness in my book! We will cross paths again my friend. I love you brother! You too Richard! Kim, love you so much dear! And Dax too!

Yeah, bro, I noticed Dax was very happy. ha ha ha - kahit na kahapon! Happy talaga! You just have to love the man! And I kid you not!
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Novice Blogger said...

Richard: It has been a pleasure to be in the company of somebody like you. It was fun and mahirit talaga. With the trash-talk, mga out-of-the-blue banat kay Criz like "San-ka-nga-nakatira-kala-ko-sa-city-of-angels" and all, those would always be good memories. Until then, good luck and you & Sam stay out of trouble.

Lovelyn: I'd even be glad to be linked by you. And it's quite ironic and mysterious that while you give, you really gain more. And about the leaving thing, medyo mahabang story, I have to tell it to you personally some time. Hehe.

Anikid: It is not my intention to deceive you bro. My take is if one can do a good post with an ad in it, and without any misrepresentation of what is true, then so be it. And I also thought that you would laugh at it. Para naman di masyadong madrama.

And I think if Dax were a post in your blog, he would be labeled as the "lighter side of life".

THE ANiTOKiD said...

You got that right, I had a good laugh with it bro! Eh magkasama tayo when you told me! ha ha ha

I loved the way you put Dax into perspective - a blog post! hi hi hi

Miss you Sam and Richard! Miss you talaga! We had lots of fun, didn't we?

Novice Blogger said...

Speaking of fun, kelan lang yung Amazing ni Sam and hole digging namin ni Richard? Si Dax naman, legacy si Marinela. Hehe.

Oh well, buhay nga naman, parang blog, may mga posts ka sa buhay na ayaw mong matabunan pero dahil kailangan maging on-the-go palagi, matatabunan pa rin.

jedianalyst said...

Lighter Side of Life...ha ha. I'm not happy it happened but I'm happy with my life. Offended din ako the way they did it but I focused on the silver lining. I thinks the pros outnumbered the cons. Sadly, I will not be witnessing the much-awaited launch of the project. But I got more than I expected. I learned a thing or two about office politics from veterans. I had the opportunity to work with great guys like you, Leslie, Sam and Richard. Pinipigil ko lang tawa ko pag naghihiritan kayo akala ninyo lagi akong seryoso...

There are many good things that happened during my stay there despite the dark presences...he he.
But it's time to move on.

Good luck, guys. Always remember na patience is a virtue...Huwag ninyo kaming gayahin... he he

Good luck, Dundee. Di ko talaga naisip na pati ikaw. Know this though, bilib rin (like Anitokid) ako sa lalim mo magsulat. Keep it up, pare.

Novice Blogger said...

Well said Dax. And it's something to know that someone believes in you. Thanks. It has been great to be your seatmate. Hehe. Stay well and let us know kung may basketball. :)

Kim said...

hi dundee.. miss ka na namin.. kahit na minsan OP ako sa mga usapan niyo (only girl eh=Dhehehe).. miss you guys.. hope you are all ok.. take care always..

Novice Blogger said...

Hey Kim! Yeah, we miss you as well. :) And we're doing fine really. Kita kits minsan. Stay well!